In the past I have spoken about the dangers of social media regarding our children. What to do, what not to do and all the technicalities that people don’t know. It’s a topic that is very close to my heart because I don’t want any parent to do something that they will later regret. When we talk about social media platforms we think about Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and Youtube but social media platforms include dating apps.
The intent behind disclosing that you have children on dating apps are completely understandable. Common sense dictates that as a single parent looking for a partner online you don’t want to randomly ambush someone by suddenly letting them know that you have kids at home. It makes logical sense to want to share that kind of information with someone. Unfortunately, we live in an age where that can pose an incredible danger to ourselves and our children. To get a better context about the dangers that social media can pose to your children, have a look at our video here.
There are two things that are absolute ‘no-no’s’ when it comes to your online dating profile:
- Do not include in your bio that you are a parent or any details pertaining to your children. Like any other platform, there are fake profiles and predators whose sole purpose for being online is to find and reach out to a vulnerable target. By including in your bio that you have children you are signaling to these predators. It’s a red flag that screams “TAKE ME! TAKE ME!” The only difference between saying you have children in your bio and having images of your children on your dating profile is that it makes it harder for predators because they must put in more work in order to find out how many kids there are, how old they are and what they look like. But simply limiting the information you share on your bio does not deter them at all.
- Do not post images of your children on your dating app or anywhere else on social media. Predators can immediately tell from an image whether they would have a potential market/client/buyer for that child. It’s like putting an ad out there for anyone with a bad agenda to take advantage of.
It sounds like the stuff of nightmares… But I can tell you from my many years of experience that nightmares have got nothing on real life. I wish that this was just some urban legend to scare parents, but it is real.
If you find someone on a dating app and you get along well, I highly suggest that you only discuss your kids once you have already met face to face and your ‘relationship’ has developed to the point where it is tangible. You need to be extremely vigilant when it comes to the safety of your children and yourself. I strongly urge you to steer clear of dating apps in terms of your children’s information and images. Avoid it all together and save yourself a lot of trouble.
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